Being Word-less in a World of Words

Sometimes life can be so overwhelming that mere words can’t express what’s going on in our hearts, in our minds, or around us…but perhaps that’s a good thing. There are other ways to express ourselves and to vent our frustration.

At some point in your life, you are going to feel disappointed and hurt…no matter who you are…it’s a vulnerability we all open ourselves up to, just by being human. We place our trust in someone, and they let us down…or perhaps, we don’t believe in trusting people, and end up letting ourselves down. Either way, it hurts. And it is okay to be hurt.

Yes, you read that last sentence correctly…it’s okay to be hurt. But it is not okay to hurt someone else, just because you are hurt. So learning to express yourself in a way that does not hurt others, is vitally important.

We can talk to close friends about the issue at hand, however, there will be times when the hurt is so deep that no matter how many words we use, the hurt won’t be conveyed…and we might feel depressingly alone, buried alive under all the pain. Then what should we do? Be silent. Don’t ramble at people, because they might get the wrong idea, and we may say something that we will regret.

Notice that I said, “be silent” and not “bottle it up”…there’s a crucial difference in the two phrases. If we bottle up an emotion, it will manifest itself in the worst possible way…we will explode. It is like putting baking powder and vinegar into a soda bottle, then screwing on the cap…(spoiler alert) it explodes. You need to find a way of expressing yourself, not a distraction. Do something that brings you joy and peace. For example, if there is something bothering me, I will go for a walk or get into my car and just drive…maybe I’ll even take a close friend with me. However, it is important to realize that sometimes we do need time to think about the hurt or disappointment that we feel, we need to spend some time in solitude…and pray.

There’s that evil four-letter word! But the funny thing about prayer (as I’ve mentioned in previous posts) is that words are optional. Sit in quiet, and take that hurt to your Father. Then, feel your Father come to you and hold you. Pour the contents of your heart out in front of Him. Yes, it is okay to cry…especially while you rest in the arms of the one who gave you the ability to cry! But it is important to be silent. Sometimes we need to hear words of comfort, but how will we hear them if we are not listening?

Have the courage to express yourself in a word-less manner. Have the courage to be alone with God. Have the courage to be silent. Only then will you begin to heal.

Merry Christmas!

I am what you would call a “Christmas Freak”. Usually, I get into the Christmas Spirit around late October and don’t come off the “Christmas High” until late January…is that okay? Heck yes! In fact, I encourage it…let me tell you why.

The Incarnation of Christ is one of the central mysteries of our faith as Catholics. God took on human frailty so that we might leave our frailty behind and strive to be more like our creator. The Un-comprehensible Being became a creature, just like you and me, in an act of amazing love…how awesome is that?! That is not a mystery that should be locked into a short 12-day period of celebration for the individual believer. Sure, liturgically speaking, we have other awesome things to celebrate so we set aside that 12-day period strictly for the celebration of the Incarnation. But we, as individual Catholics, should not loose the spirit of love, fellowship, and warmth when we pack up the Christmas tree.

Christmas, of course, has fallen victim to the secular world, as most Christian holidays have. It has become more about the presents under the tree, rather than the presence of Christ, real and living, in this world of ours. How do we reverse this trend? Well, as I said earlier, packing up the spirit of Christmas with the tree, is not helping the situation. We, ourselves, need to learn what Christmas is all about. If we know what Christmas is all about, it is almost impossible not to be overjoyed. God loves us all so much that he comes to dwell with us. But if we shove Christ out the door after the Christmas movies come to an end, are we really immersed in the Christian experience that Christmas is?

Am I telling you to leave your Christmas décor up throughout the year? No. Personally, I would get sick of those flashing lights on the tree after awhile. But perhaps leave a nativity scene displayed somewhere in your house to remind you of the awesome gift that the Incarnation is, and to remind yourself daily that Christ’s presence in your life. If you feel like you are loosing that spirit which has come to be associated with the season of Christmas, take a few minutes and meditate on the mystery of the Incarnation. Perhaps you will even gain some sort of new insight into the mystery of the Incarnation and, maybe, you will even fall deeper in love with your Catholic faith.

This idea should be applied to EVERY Christian holiday. Some of you are probably scratching your head and asking “Why?” Well, the answer is simple, Catholicism is a joy-filled religion. We have many feasts and mysteries to celebrate throughout the year, but if we allow our celebration to cease, there is no reason for Catholicism to be filled with joy. Perhaps you don’t outwardly celebrate 365 days a year, but every day (yes, every day) we should set some time aside to sit and be thankful for the many mysteries of our faith. If we do this, more and more people will be drawn to us, because, in doing so, we would become joy-filled people who seek to serve God in every way possible, out of thanksgiving for all He has done for us.

Accepting Jesus

We, as Catholics, can sometimes catch ourselves slipping our voices into a deep Southern accent, and asking one another "Have you accepted Jesus Christ as your personal lord and savior?!" as a way to poke fun at people of other denominations. There's two issues with this:

1) It is NOT acceptable behavior for Catholics to poke fun of people of other faiths or denominations. We are called to love and to bring people back home to Christ. If we are sitting around making fun of the people we are called to evangelize, do you really think those people are going to WANT to come to Christ with us? The answer is simply, no. They will be drawn to a loving and welcoming community, not one that hates and disassociates itself from its other brothers and sisters in Christ.

2) As much as we Catholics don't want to admit it...those people have a very important point.

Allow me to expand on that second idea. We can learn more and more about the faith, read the Catechism, go to daily Mass, be active in our parish communities, even go so far as to enter seminary...but if we do all this without accepting Christ into our hearts, I tell you, it has no meaning.

Unfortunately, we see this a lot within the Church today. People will attend Mass, participate in their parish activities, buy the raffle tickets, drop a twenty-dollar bill in the collection basket, and say these pre-printed prayers...but none of this means ANYTHING if it is not coming from the heart. I know, personally, that I had this problem. I would kneel at adoration, genuflect toward the tabernacle, bow toward the altar, and serve Mass for two reasons: 1) I knew that was my duty and 2) to be seen. I wanted to be seen doing these things...it wasn't about Christ. In my heart, it was about me. That "piety" which people complemented me on...really wasn't there...I looked pious so that people would notice how "holy" and "Catholic" I was...but I was far from it. I would "pray" which means I would say these words, which I was reading off of a card, into an aimless abyss...no one would hear my "prayer" because I wasn't speaking from my heart...I was reading to myself, not to God. I had no prayer life, because I didn't know how to pray. Prayer took place in my mind...not my heart.

What caused this mess? I'll tell you, it is so simple that I am shocked many more people have not noticed, the problem is that we as Catholics have a tendency to over-intellectualize the faith. Not that intellectualization is bad...but if you only concentrate on the intellectual aspect of the faith, you are focusing on your mind and forgetting about the heart! Christ is trapped in our minds as this wonderfully beautiful idea, but it is when we allow Christ into our hearts that he becomes an even more beautiful reality.

Though I didn't know how to do it, I set out to "accept" Jesus into my heart. I sat down in front of my laptop, went to Google, typed in "Accepting Jesus..."— then I realized that I had turned right back to the activity I was trying to get away from...I was trying to intellectualize the situation. So, I closed my laptop, jumped into my car, drove to a Perpetual Adoration Chapel, and sat down in one of the seats for a little while. Then...I cleared my mind (probably the hardest thing I have ever done), knelt down, and stared at Jesus, who was made present by the Holy Eucharist, and uttered two simple words "Help me." Though I was Catholic because of my baptism and Confirmation, I became a practicing, praying, and God-fearing Catholic that day.

I would now like to pose a question to you...Christ is standing at the door of your heart and knocking, when will you let Him in?